How do I contact my birth parents or a child I gave up for adoption?
Each adoption agency has a Reunion Registry that allows adult adoptees, birth parents, and birth relatives to note they’d like to be contacted.
- Add your name to the Reunion Registry or update your information on it by calling the agency that handled the adoption. Request a form, complete it, get it notarized, and send it back to the agency.
- If both the adoptee and the relative have registered for contact, the adoption agency will contact both.
- Adult adoptees, birth parents, and birth relatives can also update their medical histories.
- You are responsible for updating your information on the Reunion Registry. This includes changes to your name, address, or phone number.
If the Department of Children and Families was your adoption agency, submit the appropriate forms.
To contact someone who isn’t on the registry or hasn’t already given that permission:
- Contact the agency that completed the adoption. Send them a notarized letter to prove your identity.
- The agency can give you information that doesn’t identify the birth parent or relative.
- You will have an in-person interview with the agency. If you currently live outside Connecticut, please schedule an interview with a licensed clinical social worker, psychologist, or psychiatrist, or an adoption agency in the state you live in.
- The agency will try to locate the person and put you in touch with each other.
- If they don’t want to be identified, please make sure you are correctly listed on the Reunion Registry. Some people do change their minds!